I had a CRAZY conversation this week about young adults living in the city. My friend, colleague, and tested right hand man Luke Parrott is living in Denver now, and he reported back how relationships are being run from the 35 and under crowd.
Two years ago, I wrote this book ALONE: Finding Connection in a Lonely World with the basic thesis that everywhere we turn today we find ourselves more and more ALONE. Whether it’s a social media problem, a lack of trust with the people in our sphere of influence, or the cultural need to be isolated; we’re facing an unprecedented problem in humanity as we are all living through life ALONE.
A Thesis tested with my work with Teenagers Around the World, I’ve been wondering how relevant ALONE will be as we live long enough to realize the generation living through the technological revolution. Will they see the need to connect at a level deeper than the latest Instagram post, or Facebook profile? Or will we see a generation able to use social media for its value, and still be able to form meaningful connections outside of their techno connections.
The New Problem
According to Luke, what’s happening in Denver is exactly what I predicted.
Most of you know the Ferguson issue spread around the country this year, and although the media hasn’t promoted much of what’s going on in other states, DENVER is a hot-box for young protesters still coming together. They’re protesting in the midst of pain, and they’re finding each other in these weekend marches.
The groups that are meeting are filled with people who are realizing that humanity is actually a culmination of successes and mistakes, and they’re finding each other in new intriguing ways. All spurred on by the Ferguson debate, young adults are coming together and forming new communities in real time.
But here’s the catch…
They don’t trust each other.
They’ve been trained to google each other, creep on each other’s Facebook accounts, or do a cursory look at their LinkedIn accounts. Nobody trusts meeting someone face to face at a bar, a sporting event, or a local party anymore. They have to go home and see what the internet says about each other.
It’s almost like Match.com and E-Harmony have trained young adults that the only way they can really know someone is if we can quantify their personality through their technology profile, and meeting each other face to face is as skeptical as ever.
We’re living in these interesting times, and I’m curious.
If you are 35 years old or younger….
1. Do you trust technology more than relationships formed face to face?
2. How do you go about developing real friendships in your life?
3. Have you regulated your dating behavior to online meetings?
4. Are you fulfilled with your relationships, or do you feel as though you are walking through life alone?
Feel free to comment here, or you can e-mail me privately at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear your story, and try to understand what your generation is trying to overcome. I welcome any and all comments. There’s some really good stuff going on here.
In the meantime, if you’re interested, you can get my book on Amazon today by CLICKING HERE. I think you’ll find a good will narrative that can identify our collective Loneliness.