Is Marriage Obsolete?

Cameron-diaz Cameron Diaz, hollywood actress and girlfriend to New York Yankees Alex Rodriguez, has just come out with a shocking comment concerning the future of their relationship. 

"Marriage is a dying institution. I think we have to make our own rules. I don't think we should live our lives in relationships based off old traditions that don't suit our world any longer," said the 'Charlies Angels' star.

I would usually dismiss such comments as hollywood fodder, but there's a growing trend happening in a demographic of students age 13-19 who think similar ideas when asked about marriage. 

A recent CBS article surveyed Young Professionals and found one in particular claiming, ""The reasons you get married are no longer what they used to be," Scandurra said. "You used to get married in the past, you know, to have sex [because] no one had sex before marriage. You didn't have kids unless you were married. Now, people are having kids outside of marriage. And also, you know, women used to get married for financial security, because they didn't have any other way to sustain themselves. That's all gone."

A Recent Website put up by the Resurgence group of the Northwest (CLICK HERE) tells the 9 myths about sex and relationships our culture is trying to deal with. 

The myths exposed are:

  • Long Term exclusivity is fiction.
  • The Introduction of Sex is important to sustaining or healing a fledgling relationship.
  • Boys will be Boys.  There is a double standard of sexuality among male and female tradition.
  • It doesn't matter what other people do sexually, you make your own decisions.
  • Porn won't effect your relationships.
  • Everyone is having sex more than you are.
  • Sex Need not mean anything.
  • Marriage can always wait.
  • Moving in together is definitely a step toward marriage.

It's so exciting to see others engaged in the conversation about marriage. Even USA TODAY reported, this generation is the first to see marriage as an obsolete institution. 

There is much to be talked about.
Many conversation needs to happen. 
We must have a real life talk with our kids about the way they date, the ideas they have about sexuality, and the reasons marriage is still an ordained picture God uses to tell us about His relationship with us.

Which is another conversation all together.

Not only are we compromising one of the fundamental institutions of relationship, we're now toying with God's image of how He thinks of us. 

How crazy would it be to tell someone about God being the bridegroom, and you being the bride. He's excited to reinstate his full relationship with you. (Matthew 22:2)  And the only  experience you have concerning marriage is a horrible divorce?

Marriage Matters.

Don't let the hedonist of the 21st century drive a foundational relationship of humanity out of relevance. 

Marriage is God ordained. (Matthew 9:15)
It's been around since the beginning of time.
Sure it's going to be tough.
The fairy tale weddings we see in the movies aren't real.
Marriage is difficult.

It requires forgiveness.
It functions on grace.

Real Love is…well 1 Corinthians 13.

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.   Love never fails."

This Journey on the planet isn't all about whatever makes you feel good at the moment.  True love is about commitment.  Community with others takes real effort.  And that's what marriage is all about. 

 

 

 

 

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