If you're anything like me, there's not a lot in the world that compares to a good old fashion fishing trip. I LOVE to Fish. Something about the Ocean, the sound of the boat, the smell of the salt water, and reeling in a MONSTER gets my blood going. It's AWESOME!
Only one problem…
My sons aren' so excited about fishing.
I mean they like fishing well enough, but when it comes right down to it, they'd rather be playing video games, riding bikes, or hanging out on the river. Here me straight, I like that stuff, but I've always seen the Father Son Fishing trip as something that would make me a GREAT DAD!
But maybe not….
Sometimes we have these pre-conceived notions about what it means to be a man, and how we have to pass on to our sons, but sometimes we need to back up a bit.
LESSON 2 – The things you like to do aren't always what your son likes to do. BE INTENTIONAL!
One thing I've learned dealing with teenagers is this….sometimes I have to do what they like to do and put my own desires on the back burner for a bit. Relationships are developed as students see I'm willing to be intentional about what THEY are excited about, rather than trying to force them to like what I like.
So today, think about this. What do your sons like to do?
If they like to play video games, take a lesson from their favorite game.
If they like sports, go watch a game together, or better yet, pick up a ball and play.
If they like art, take them to the theater, the gallery, or just pick up a paintbrush and try your hand at making something creative.
I promise, as you are intentional at trying to get into their lives, conversation will begin to flow, and bridges of trust will start to form. Sons need to know that Fathers approve of their interests and their passions. So take a second out of your own agenda, and make your agenda theirs. You'll be surprised at how fast they respond.