Our family loves to play cards. Ever since the kids were little we would play "Go Fish" or "Old Maid" that usually ended up in them making up their own special rules so they would win. I had to die to the fact that it was possible to win a card game, but let's be honest, how much street cred do you get when you beat a three year old at Go Fish?
When we travel, we always have a game of spades going. Jamie Jo is the BEST!! I'll put her up against anyone, and I can almost guarantee victory. You know why? She's a brilliant strategist.
It's almost like she knows the cards that are going to be played several cards before they are. It's amazing to watch! Sometimes I'll just sit back and start playing different cards to see if I can trick her, but she's on it…Always knows.
She knows because she's well aware of how we play.
She knows how my sons play.
She knows how my daughter plays.
She knows how I play.
She's not 'shooting from the hip,' but rather; she's reading the personalities of those of us playing, and she plays accordingly. Like I said, she's an incredible strategist. If I didn't know any better, I thought she was stacking the deck.
So, how in the world do card games pertain to raising sons?
STACK THE DECK!
Stacking the deck might be illegal in Vegas, but stacking the deck in raising our kids is essential.
Not long ago I was in Ruston Louisiana meeting with a pastor friend of mine. There were several college students coming in and out of the house eating food, doing laundry, and just hanging out. I quizzically asked him, "Reverend, what gives with all the college kids?" And he said something profound.
"Andy, some day my 12 year old daughter is going to stop talking with me. I'm not going to be cool enough to share life with, but I'm not going to leave those conversations up to chance. I'm going to make sure I have people in place that she can talk to, readily available, and most of all discipled by me. I'm Stacking the Deck!"
I'll never forget that.
Stacking the deck is an important part of parenting. We've got to use all the resources that are at our fingertips. Youth Groups, Sports Teams, Mentors, even camps like KIVU can be valuable resources in providing growth memories for your students.
If there's anything I love about playing cards, it's the thrill of not knowing the outcome. But are we really willing to chance raising our kids to chance? OR, are we willing to do something pro-active and start giving them the best chances we know how in order to set them up for success.
I hope today…you'll be STACKING THE DECK for your family.