Adoption is Caring for People…not Disney World.

Story.adoption.giOn my daily news cruise I found this article on the Greene family. Four biological kids, and five adopted kids.  Can you believe this picture.  I mean, this is what heaven is supposed to look like, right?

It was of particular interest to me, as we've watched the adoption world shattered since January. 

First it was 30 Baptist parishioners, who thought it was a good idea to kidnap Haitian children and try to smuggle them to the Dominican Republic after the awful earthquake. 

And then the unbelievable story of a Tennessee woman who put her adopted son on an airplane to Moscow with a note to the government saying he was too much to handle and now was a ward of the state.  

Anyway, the Greene family first adopted their son from an Eastern Bloc country, and they knew it was going to rough.  However, they had no little Jessee (4) was going to turn into an ADD, ADHD, Separation syndrome type of a kid.  Mrs. Greene likened the process to meeting your mate at the alter, and being stuck with whatever you got. "It's misleading to think it's a pathway covered with rose petals,"
Greene said. "None of it is a Disney World ride, but it's wonderful.
It's hard and serious work."

As I've been watching these adoption stories in the news, I've felt disheartened as I watch the process of adoption continue to go through more and more regulation. The ignorant acts of a few are putting a wrench in the cogs of the adoption process, and that means there are more and more kids who are just going to have wait for the wheels of bureaucracy to turn.

I guess it's necessary to try and vet out mothers and fathers who think adoption is some kind of romantic weekend they can reach out and help someone.  But there are thousands of kids in the world that need a mom and a dad.  They don't need to lay their head on the pillow tonight, and worry if someone is going to love them or not. 

But lets not fool ourselves. Adoption isn't easy.  It's not easy bringing someone in your home who thinks differently than you.  It's not easy dealing with different cultures under the same roof.  It's not easy teaching language skills and interpersonal relationships with kids who have been in the orphanage for extended periods of time.  

But God never called us to easy, did He? 

James 1:27 says, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to
look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from
being polluted by the world." 

It doesn't say adoption is going to be easy.  It doesn't say you're going to get any rewards.  It doesn't say the kid is going to be grateful.  It doesn't say you're going to just keep living like you were before you started looking after orphans and widows. 

What it does say…

God accepts this as pure.
God looks on this act as faultless.
It gives us the impression that God smiles on the acts of widow and orphan care. 
It gives us a standard for how to live our lives practically in the world. 

Don't be fooled.  Adoption is tough.  It's tough to build a parenting relationship with kids from different cultures and backgrounds.  Take it from me…We've adopted two kids from Rwanda.  But even in the tough times, the beauty of adoption outweighs the hard times. 

After all, God didn't wait on me to act perfect. 
He didn't wait on me to learn His language. 
He didn't put rules on me before He drew me to Himself. 
No, the Bible says we are heirs to the kingdom of God. (James 2:5) 
Imagine this, The Bible says He adopted us before the beginning of the Universe…

"For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and
blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us to be adopted as his
sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious
grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves." (Ephesians 1:4-6)

May we be people who take James 1:27 serious.
May we be able to give grace when life gets hard.
May we live our lives worthy of the gospel of Christ. 
May we relish in the truth that God adopted us before the beginning of time.

For more on the Greene Family.  See this, GREENE FAMILY LINK

1 Comment

  1. The woman who put the child on a plane was with a very good agency who surely filled her in on the possibilities of attachment disorder. It boggles my mind that anyone could go through the long, arduous process of international adoption and remain so ignorant.
    But the very fact that she 1) thought putting him on a plane and sending him home was a viable option and 2) her behind is not sitting in jail right now where she belongs firmly reveals that neither she nor the Tennessee government has a fraction of comprehension as to what adoption truly is.
    Her actions are no different than the case revealed recently about the mother who aborted the “wrong” twin instead of the one with Down Syndrome.
    In a world where we would kill our own blood children for being ‘imperfect’, I guess it should come as no surprise that such an attitude carries over into adoption.

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